In my last post, in speaking about step 3 of helping your clients master change through pattern interruption, I gave a few examples of how important it is to change people's perspective and provoke them into breakthroughs.
A pattern interruption means you're forcing the person to face something intense.
Here's another instance: "We don't want our kids to get checked because they're scared."
"Okay, if you said that, what would you be scared of?"
"Well, that it would hurt them."
What I'd say is, "Are you scared that they might get hurt? Or are you scared of a minor adjustment? Or are you more scared that the foundation of their life and their health isn't developing right? Are you scared that they are actually getting weaker as they get older? What are you more scared of? Are you scared of a minor adjustment that's delivered to millions of kids every day? Are you scared that the real foundation of health in their body isn't developing right that could affect their health the rest of their life? Which one are you more scared of?"
Not only do such questions redefine the problem, but they are actually pattern interruptions. Which one are you more scared of? What's the greater fear? Stating that fear, or insisting on the patient recognizing that choice, is part of the pattern interruption.
You can choose different words, but you're getting the idea. You're being a mirror. What did you actually say? "I'm too scared." What are you scared of? An easy adjustment that can give them health for life or that their body is developing abnormally from childhood? Which are you more afraid of? It's just an X-ray. That's what it is.
Here's another: "My husband hates chiropractors."
How often do you hear that? Find out what the objection is. Why does he hate them?
"Well, a chiropractor cracked his neck and he had headaches for ten years."
Then you would handle that objection. "So did he take X-rays? What's the deal? Basically, he trusted somebody when he shouldn't have," because there's taking responsibility, "and then he got injured," or "His father had a patient who went to a chiropractor and they missed cancer."
I'd say, "First of all, basically I don't know what the situation is, but if it was one patient with your father. Do you think he's willing to sacrifice your health because of one patient your father had 30 years ago?"
Is that a pattern interruption? I'm not asking him to be a patient. I'm asking him to understand your condition. Is he willing to sacrifice your health because of one patient from years ago whom he doesn't even know? That's a pattern interruption question. It's also a responsibility question. It's also a redefine-the-problem question.
Does that make sense? You get the idea of pattern interruption. Boom! Be the mirror. Stop that thought process. Change it. Now, with that transition, we can move to the next step, step four of helping your clients master change: redefine the problem. This is step 4 of the 7 steps to helping your clients master change, and I will explore that in my next post.
I'd love to hear your experiences in pattern interruptions. You may have done this before reading my thoughts on how to go about it. What happened in your case? How did your patients or clients react? Thank you for sharing.