Now that you have interrupted people's patterns of denial, you can help them redefine their problem to enable them to move forward. This is step 4 in the 7 Steps Toward Enabling Clients to Master Change. To refresh your memory: the first step is understand people's world (speak their language), the second step is create a base from which they can accept responsibility, and the third step is to interrupt that pattern of denial of what's been going on and what's good for them.
Now that we have understood a patient's world and emotional beliefs and have had them take responsibility and awaken to reality through a pattern interruption, we reframe what's going on for them. We're helping them see a situation from a new perspective.
Here's where we determine what they're focused on. We listen to their language pattern. We determine the meaning. We ask them a question, redefine the problem that changes the meaning and we get their agreement on the new meaning. As a result, they change. Their physiology changes and they vibrate differently.
When you change that focus in you and you realize your responsibilities have changed their state, you create an empowered person. You bring out in them the empowered person who's always been there. They help you help them change the way they want to live their life.
Redefine their problem. Right from the beginning have your pre-consultation down. Get them to agree: "So can you see how your posture affects your overall health?"
We can start with the first question but then we change the meaning. "So, do you get numbness and weakness in your legs?"
"Yes, my legs feel tired at the end of the day."
"So you're losing motor function?" Change the meaning.
Or, if a patient says, "I've had allergies since I was a kid."
You change the meaning by asking: "So your immune system's never been strong?" Now they must agree to it.
Now what if they don't agree? "Well, I don't think my immune system hasn't been strong."
You then ask, "Well, are allergies a sign of immune strength or immune weakness?" You give them a choice, and you want them to pick the second: immune weakness.
"Well, I haven't gotten sick."
You say, "I didn't ask that question because there's different symptoms of immune weakness."
Is cancer a sign of immune weakness? Strength or immune weakness? Immune weakness. Can a person get cancer without ever having colds or flus? Yes. Does that mean their immune system's been strong? No. I ask questions. I take people through the thought process:
"Did you know that many cancer patients in adults have history of allergies as a kid?"
"No, I didn't know that."
"So do you think your immune system's been strong your whole life or it's been weak?"
"It's been weak."
That's a reframing of why they come in. By the time you're done, you've gone through many reframes. You have to know how to focus on the organs and reframe everything. You reframe everything. How do you reframe back pain?
"Well, lordosis is a strength, I'm a spinal corrected doctor. I know lordotic spine is strength. Lordoctic spine is leverage to the muscles, you know you lose the curve. The structure's weak. It collapses, the muscles aren't near as strong. It's been proven over and over and over again. You don't need to see the research. You guys already know it.”
So when a person loses a lordotic curve, her spine is significantly weaker, especially if the center is the strength of your body. So if they have back pain, what's that mean? The structure's weak. So what's a reframe? “The whole core strength of your body is weak. Now it's more than just back pain. The strength of your whole body is now weak."
Continue, "Is it time that you took responsibility and did something to fix it so you can have a strong, healthy body?"
I'm not going to say, "Well, it's time for you." Because when I tell them, they're going to object. Instead, as a coach, I say, "Do you feel that this is the time to finally get a strong, healthy body? Are you tired of being that way?" Take them into suffering and beyond it. Redefine the problem.
Always reframe. Change the meaning. You can do this because you always see the best in people. You control the focus, and you control the meaning.
I explore this further in my next post.
In the meantime, what have been your experiences in helping your patients or clients to redefine the problems they're facing, so that they can move forward with you? What were the circumstances, and how did the clients react?
Thank you for sharing.